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For years direct dating has had a bit of a bad reputation as only being for those who are desperate, who who are unable to find partners by other means because there is something wrong.

But times have changed and so to has direct dating, now such methods (including online dating, dating agencies etc) are enjoying a change of image.  It is now seen as a legitimate way for people to meet like minded people, for those who are short of time to find people to take on dates.  Certainly perfect for those who live in busy places like London.

But which one works better, direct dating or traditional dating?

Of course both methods have their pro’s and con’s, so let us look at which might be right for you.

Time

With direct dating you choose how much time you devote to it, but more importantly you can choose to do it in break moments, quiet times when you might otherwise be twiddling your thumbs (especially true of online dating websites).  Whilst you may get more from putting more time in because of the way direct dating works even a few minutes a day can put you in touch with many potential dates.

Traditional dating is harder to quantify.  You never know when you will be meeting new people, and if you actively seek out individuals it can take many evenings in bars, clubs, meetings etc before you find someone who you find attractive and who thinks likewise, and who is single.

Choice

Direct dating’s success depends on bringing you a wide range of choice.  It depends entirely where you live.  I  London you tend to get a wide choice because of the large population, whilst in small towns you have less options.  But you always know that the people you see are available rather than having to find out – and if you live in somewhere like London you get choices well into the tens of thousands.

Traditional dating gives a far wider choice – theoretically everyone.  But you need to find ways of meeting them, find out if they are available and understand more about them as there is no profile to read.

Availability

Direct dating is the hands down winner here.  Because you know that anyone who is putting themselves up for direct dating is available you don’t have to ask awkward questions about spouses or partners to find out as you would when meeting someone via traditional methods.

Attraction

Traditional methods have the edge here.  You will know far better if you are attracted to someone upon seeing them in the flesh and then chatting with them for a few minutes then you would be browsing some photos and reading a profile.

Both methods of finding dates work, but the best way is to try combine the two.  Use direct dating as a way of trying to meet people but never be closed to finding someone via the traditional method.  There are plenty of direct dating options available, so look for the best websites and dating agencies for you, your situation and what you are looking for.

Have you noticed how many online dating services exist? There are now dating services available for special interest groups, nearly every ethnic group and culture, as well as one for every religion. The amazing thing is that these services are well liked by many and they seem to be making matches that work.

In decades gone by, if we wanted to meet a partner we would go to social events and church services, meet friends of friends and that sort of thing. Nowadays, people still meet that way but the era of technology has caught up with our emotions.

Many of us now prefer meeting someone online long before we make the commitment of an actual face to face meeting. The Internet allows us a certain sense of anonymity while providing us the freedom to say whatever we want.

This is both a positive and a negative. First of all, because we can say whatever we want or happens to be on our mind, we can feel secure in revealing our inner self while keeping a safe distance from the person we are sharing this information with.

But at the same time, we can also be very deceptive. It’s all relative to one’s sense of values and personality. The mask of the Internet provides the perfect opportunity to be whoever or whatever we want to be at the moment or to a particular person. Obviously, this can result in problems if the relationship continues.

Finding out that the person you have developed feelings for is not who you thought they were is nothing new – but with online dating, the truth can be totally different from what you were led to believe. However, there is an advantage with quality online dating services, in that they do screen applicants and because a fee is involved it is less likely that someone will simply be there to play games.

Fast forward to the year 2050 and where do you see dating practices being? I predict that by that time we will do most everything via the Internet or something even better. Therefore, meeting partners in the old, traditional ways will be passé and almost non-existent. Instead, it will become the norm to simply shop for a partner when you are ready for a relationship. For better or worse, I think I might like that kind of world!

You are lonely, you don’t have the time or you just can’t find the right person with speed dating services or going to clubs with your friends. I understand your problem because I was in the same predicament for many years. The problem with the real world is that most people tend to rush into things, often at the first things they see and the physical connection – a feature of the real world – undermines the emotional connection we should all feel before anyone jumps into a relationship with anyone else. We cant help it, we are ruled by carnal desires just as much as any animal out there, and this causes us to be led into pathways of mistakes and disappointments in our love lives.

Someone told me a long time ago about online dating services and yes, I was sceptical at first. I heard a lot of bad things about dating online, and there have been many horror stories about people meeting stalkers or psychos online. Things have changed. Structured and proper dating services do a lot of checks on their members and there are levels of security that they maintain within the website. There are also plenty of disclaimers in the website and some of them register with local law enforcement agencies to give that extra level of protection. But that’s just salt for flavour. It is down to you, you and you alone can make online dating successful. You have to want to find that special person online, you have to want to put in the extra work to find out all you can about your possible matches and work towards communication.

Communication is the most important thing before and after a relationship. And the internet is the ultimate platform of communication. There is a level of interactivity on the internet that closely mimics real life – with some extra added advantages. Its platform ensures that fears, doubts and even insecurities are wiped out – at least for a moment so that lines of dialogue can open and anyone can engage another person and maybe even connect with them on an emotional level. Who knows how far it can go from there? Who knows just who you might meet. Don’t look at online dating as the last chance for you to meet your special someone, look at it as an opportunity to rekindle your love life, put some excitement back into your days and nights and make you look forward to something when you wake up each and every morning.

This is the true beginners guide to online free dating – approach it with an open heart and an open mind. Think positive and look out for the gem that could put the light back into your life.   Thousands of people all over the world have found perfect happiness with online dating sites and you could be one of them. If you at any point of your life considered giving it a try I would say just go for it – who knows, there could be wedding bells in the near future.

Online Dating is slightly trickier than normal dating, not so much that it is a harder experience but that it requires a different set of rules and an altered approach to normal dating. What you need to think about is that these people are online because they either have no time to date in the real world or they much prefer to take their time.

It is not all about speed when it comes to online dating, some times it is about patience and if you follow these simple rules, you will be able to get an edge on the latest dating buzz to hit the internet. First and foremost, you must understand the science behind the use of the profile. Always use the most recent of your pictures and include several full body shots. People are more likely to contact you or answer your message if they know they can match the picture with the person they are talking to. I have heard many people wonder why they can never get a reply when they join a dating sight and a quick look at their profiles will reveal why.

Number one, never ever use a single photo on your profile, this turns people off and they think that you are trying to hide something. A single good picture usually translates to people thinking that you either are not the person you are pretending to be, or you are using an old picture. That is the popular psychology when it comes to profiles – and this is one of the worst ways you can employ. I know there is always that one picture you are proud of, it may hep you look like a superstar, but it isn’t going to help you get dates. Show the human side of you and post as many pictures as you can. This will create a safety zone in people who view your profile and will believe that you are sincere in finding a date.

Also, remember to fill out your profile with as much detail as possible. Remember, your profile is talking and walking for you. You are ot there to smile, shake their hands or even judge them by their body language. Your profile is your dating ‘pitch’ and you have to put in some time and effort into it. A shoddy profile with very little details will not only turn people away from trying to contact you, but leave with even ore lonely nights on the horizon. Details, details and more details. That is the by word of internet dating. If you need to clinch that meeting and get that phone number, you have to be as up front and as informative as possible. Don’t allow yourself to skimp on details and make sure you dedicate a part of your week to update your profile. This is how you go in prepared and once these foundations are prepared, the rest will be smooth sailing for anyone.

The new age woman is quite different from the subservient housewives that populated homes all over the world not but a century ago. Neither are they sitting pretty in their chaise lounges, waiting for their prince charming to come serenade them, or perhaps bear gifts to their fathers as an offer for their hand in marriage. Times have changed, and the traditional garb of the women has been replaced with the power suit. Cooking utensils have been replaced with folios, PDA’s and attaché cases.

The new woman of the 21st century is the get up and go, career climbing, working professional. They are educated, informed and empowered to do whatever they want. No longer do they live under the patriarchal shadow of the industrial world, they are leaders in their own right and have stamped their presence in all sectors of society. What this means that these women no longer have the time to knit, nor do they have the time to socialize. They are the new breadwinners of the world, from the corporate jet setter to the business owner, and they simply cannot afford the time to find the right man amidst their busy schedules.

This is one of the main reasons why more and more women are looking to the internet to find dates. In a recent poll, it was observed that just a few years ago, the numbers of men and women were unequal, with more than 60% of online singles made up of men. This year, dating sites have posted some telling figures – the number of women dating online have equalled, and in some cases actually surpassed the number of men on a single dating site. When asked a lot of women say that internet dating gives them time to slowly establish relationships as well as giving them a wide range of choice. The secret about women is that most of them do not really like to rush into a relationship.

The whole ‘head over heels’ and ‘fools rush in’ mentality is very 1980’s and has not survived till today. Women like to find out every detail about a guy, they like to run a list of the good and bad points in their head and discuss it with their girlfriends. Also, women are all about content. They love to keep conversation histories and every little thing given to them – especially when download and hard disks are added to the equation. Online dating gives women breathing space and the ability to fully weight the options before committing to anything. Also, the security of a lot of sites and the imbalance that dating sites always give to women (a necessary function of online heterosexual dating) means that the ball is normally in their court and if there is anything a woman likes to have is control over a situation. This is why more and more women are dating online and looking at the figures, they are only set to rise further and further as sites improve their infrastructure and give true interactivity to online dating.