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Casual dating in London is very important.  It is one of the busiest cities in the world, it has a massive population, but also a population that is largely in transition.  As such finding casual dates to go out and have some fun with can be difficult – there simply is so much competition all the time, and people take their time so seriously.

But whilst in the real world such time constraints and competition can prove to be a stumbling block online these factors are actually a bonus when it comes to trying to get casual dates in London.

Why online dating sites are perfect for getting casual dates in London

Whilst the competition in any bar for ‘time’ with members of the opposite sex can be ferocious, online things are different.  With such a large, and in the main tech savvy, population London has a large number of people who use online dating sites.

The way such sites work means that you will

a) be able to find a lot of people who interest you

b) be able to declare your interest via PM/a prompt button in a manner that will instantly get you noticed in a way that you are unable to do in a bar.

This means that the more people online the better for you – as the more people available who will interest you and who are looking for casual dates.

That is a big advantage of online dating for anyone who wants casual dates rather than leaping full out into relationships.  Because of the very nature of online dating you are meeting people who just want to get to know you before any commitment, and often people who are just after a bit of fun.

With such a constantly changing population many people on London dating sites are just reaching out to others for a date for a good night out – to meet people who have the same sense of fun as they do.  It is a far cry from the old personal ads that might have been desperate pleas to try meet a soul mate.

Using the dating sites

Of course it is important to know how to use the dating sites to your advantage, you don’t want to be meeting the sort who are after initial commitment.  So it is important that you sculpt your profile into something that shows people exactly what you want – casual dating in London.

So keep your profile flirty and jokey.  Don’t say you are after long term commitments if you are not – you will be attracting the wrong crowd.  Instead talk about fun nights out in restaurants and bars, talk about the sort of date that you fancy doing and the sort of fun that you want to be having.

The good news is there are plenty of websites for Londoners who cater specifically for casual dating, so you don’t need to rely on generalist relationship sites.  Remember, online dating gives Londoners much better odds of finding a casual date than trying to find one in a bar.  Certainly worth a try.

For years direct dating has had a bit of a bad reputation as only being for those who are desperate, who who are unable to find partners by other means because there is something wrong.

But times have changed and so to has direct dating, now such methods (including online dating, dating agencies etc) are enjoying a change of image.  It is now seen as a legitimate way for people to meet like minded people, for those who are short of time to find people to take on dates.  Certainly perfect for those who live in busy places like London.

But which one works better, direct dating or traditional dating?

Of course both methods have their pro’s and con’s, so let us look at which might be right for you.

Time

With direct dating you choose how much time you devote to it, but more importantly you can choose to do it in break moments, quiet times when you might otherwise be twiddling your thumbs (especially true of online dating websites).  Whilst you may get more from putting more time in because of the way direct dating works even a few minutes a day can put you in touch with many potential dates.

Traditional dating is harder to quantify.  You never know when you will be meeting new people, and if you actively seek out individuals it can take many evenings in bars, clubs, meetings etc before you find someone who you find attractive and who thinks likewise, and who is single.

Choice

Direct dating’s success depends on bringing you a wide range of choice.  It depends entirely where you live.  I  London you tend to get a wide choice because of the large population, whilst in small towns you have less options.  But you always know that the people you see are available rather than having to find out – and if you live in somewhere like London you get choices well into the tens of thousands.

Traditional dating gives a far wider choice – theoretically everyone.  But you need to find ways of meeting them, find out if they are available and understand more about them as there is no profile to read.

Availability

Direct dating is the hands down winner here.  Because you know that anyone who is putting themselves up for direct dating is available you don’t have to ask awkward questions about spouses or partners to find out as you would when meeting someone via traditional methods.

Attraction

Traditional methods have the edge here.  You will know far better if you are attracted to someone upon seeing them in the flesh and then chatting with them for a few minutes then you would be browsing some photos and reading a profile.

Both methods of finding dates work, but the best way is to try combine the two.  Use direct dating as a way of trying to meet people but never be closed to finding someone via the traditional method.  There are plenty of direct dating options available, so look for the best websites and dating agencies for you, your situation and what you are looking for.

You are lonely, you don’t have the time or you just can’t find the right person with speed dating services or going to clubs with your friends. I understand your problem because I was in the same predicament for many years. The problem with the real world is that most people tend to rush into things, often at the first things they see and the physical connection – a feature of the real world – undermines the emotional connection we should all feel before anyone jumps into a relationship with anyone else. We cant help it, we are ruled by carnal desires just as much as any animal out there, and this causes us to be led into pathways of mistakes and disappointments in our love lives.

Someone told me a long time ago about online dating services and yes, I was sceptical at first. I heard a lot of bad things about dating online, and there have been many horror stories about people meeting stalkers or psychos online. Things have changed. Structured and proper dating services do a lot of checks on their members and there are levels of security that they maintain within the website. There are also plenty of disclaimers in the website and some of them register with local law enforcement agencies to give that extra level of protection. But that’s just salt for flavour. It is down to you, you and you alone can make online dating successful. You have to want to find that special person online, you have to want to put in the extra work to find out all you can about your possible matches and work towards communication.

Communication is the most important thing before and after a relationship. And the internet is the ultimate platform of communication. There is a level of interactivity on the internet that closely mimics real life – with some extra added advantages. Its platform ensures that fears, doubts and even insecurities are wiped out – at least for a moment so that lines of dialogue can open and anyone can engage another person and maybe even connect with them on an emotional level. Who knows how far it can go from there? Who knows just who you might meet. Don’t look at online dating as the last chance for you to meet your special someone, look at it as an opportunity to rekindle your love life, put some excitement back into your days and nights and make you look forward to something when you wake up each and every morning.

This is the true beginners guide to online free dating – approach it with an open heart and an open mind. Think positive and look out for the gem that could put the light back into your life.   Thousands of people all over the world have found perfect happiness with online dating sites and you could be one of them. If you at any point of your life considered giving it a try I would say just go for it – who knows, there could be wedding bells in the near future.