Dating and Relationships

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Online Dating is slightly trickier than normal dating, not so much that it is a harder experience but that it requires a different set of rules and an altered approach to normal dating. What you need to think about is that these people are online because they either have no time to date in the real world or they much prefer to take their time.

It is not all about speed when it comes to online dating, some times it is about patience and if you follow these simple rules, you will be able to get an edge on the latest dating buzz to hit the internet. First and foremost, you must understand the science behind the use of the profile. Always use the most recent of your pictures and include several full body shots. People are more likely to contact you or answer your message if they know they can match the picture with the person they are talking to. I have heard many people wonder why they can never get a reply when they join a dating sight and a quick look at their profiles will reveal why.

Number one, never ever use a single photo on your profile, this turns people off and they think that you are trying to hide something. A single good picture usually translates to people thinking that you either are not the person you are pretending to be, or you are using an old picture. That is the popular psychology when it comes to profiles – and this is one of the worst ways you can employ. I know there is always that one picture you are proud of, it may hep you look like a superstar, but it isn’t going to help you get dates. Show the human side of you and post as many pictures as you can. This will create a safety zone in people who view your profile and will believe that you are sincere in finding a date.

Also, remember to fill out your profile with as much detail as possible. Remember, your profile is talking and walking for you. You are ot there to smile, shake their hands or even judge them by their body language. Your profile is your dating ‘pitch’ and you have to put in some time and effort into it. A shoddy profile with very little details will not only turn people away from trying to contact you, but leave with even ore lonely nights on the horizon. Details, details and more details. That is the by word of internet dating. If you need to clinch that meeting and get that phone number, you have to be as up front and as informative as possible. Don’t allow yourself to skimp on details and make sure you dedicate a part of your week to update your profile. This is how you go in prepared and once these foundations are prepared, the rest will be smooth sailing for anyone.

The new age woman is quite different from the subservient housewives that populated homes all over the world not but a century ago. Neither are they sitting pretty in their chaise lounges, waiting for their prince charming to come serenade them, or perhaps bear gifts to their fathers as an offer for their hand in marriage. Times have changed, and the traditional garb of the women has been replaced with the power suit. Cooking utensils have been replaced with folios, PDA’s and attaché cases.

The new woman of the 21st century is the get up and go, career climbing, working professional. They are educated, informed and empowered to do whatever they want. No longer do they live under the patriarchal shadow of the industrial world, they are leaders in their own right and have stamped their presence in all sectors of society. What this means that these women no longer have the time to knit, nor do they have the time to socialize. They are the new breadwinners of the world, from the corporate jet setter to the business owner, and they simply cannot afford the time to find the right man amidst their busy schedules.

This is one of the main reasons why more and more women are looking to the internet to find dates. In a recent poll, it was observed that just a few years ago, the numbers of men and women were unequal, with more than 60% of online singles made up of men. This year, dating sites have posted some telling figures – the number of women dating online have equalled, and in some cases actually surpassed the number of men on a single dating site. When asked a lot of women say that internet dating gives them time to slowly establish relationships as well as giving them a wide range of choice. The secret about women is that most of them do not really like to rush into a relationship.

The whole ‘head over heels’ and ‘fools rush in’ mentality is very 1980’s and has not survived till today. Women like to find out every detail about a guy, they like to run a list of the good and bad points in their head and discuss it with their girlfriends. Also, women are all about content. They love to keep conversation histories and every little thing given to them – especially when download and hard disks are added to the equation. Online dating gives women breathing space and the ability to fully weight the options before committing to anything. Also, the security of a lot of sites and the imbalance that dating sites always give to women (a necessary function of online heterosexual dating) means that the ball is normally in their court and if there is anything a woman likes to have is control over a situation. This is why more and more women are dating online and looking at the figures, they are only set to rise further and further as sites improve their infrastructure and give true interactivity to online dating.